3/6/2024 0 Comments Letter about toothfairySomehow I resisted the temptation, and let her cry and rage, not just at the unfair world, but at me. I desperately wanted to hedge, so I know how you felt with your son. When I told her no, she became very angry at me, not because I had lead her to believe that a make-believe character was real, but because she wanted so much for the tooth fairy to be real. When my daughter was five years old, she asked me if the tooth fairy was real. We may feel we are crushing a belief that our child needs. In other words, when your kids ask if Santa, the tooth fairy and the Easter bunny are real, you should tell them the truth. Most psychologists suggest that children need to know they can trust their parents to tell them the truth, even about things like this. And most parents, when their kids get upset, are tempted to back off and say anything to make things better. I can understand why you got rattled and "fell into your own trap." Most parents wonder what to do in the situation you describe. The result is that most kids seem to hear about the tooth fairy from peers by age 7 if not before. Unfortunately, since children are so often determined to prove their "grown-up-ness" by denying and ridiculing their previous dependencies, many youngsters delight in telling their classmates that the tooth fairy isn't real. It's my hypothesis that the kids who don't ask us may be the ones who so love the fantasy that they don't really want to know the truth. I always hesitate to give appropriate ages, since every child is different, but most kids seem to start asking whether the tooth fairy is real between ages 4 and 7, when they lose a lot of teeth and thus have the opportunity to experience the whole tooth fairy fantasy. I went with the flow, mostly because I was concerned about him telling other children that Santa was a myth. Could you please give me some advice? He was ok with that, but many Christmas went by and he heard from friends and family about what was Santa bringing them, and naturally he started believing. He also believes in Santa even though I told him, when he was two, that Santa Claus existed but he died and whoever he sees as Santa is a man wearing a costume. In my attempt to calm him down I kind of fell into my own trap, I told him that I put the money under his pillow a couple of times, but I don't know who did the other times. Or he was probably crying because I made him believe in something that doesn't exist. He couldn't believe that all this time there was no tooth fairy. His response to his friends was that his mother (me) is not a liar, so his friends told him "Well, we think your mother is lying."Īfter a minute I understood that my son was at a disadvantage and could probably be teased in the future, so I told him the truth, to which he responded with tears of disappointment. I asked him the reason for his question and he told me that most of the kids in his classroom have told him that the tooth fairy doesn't exist. He wanted to know if I was the one putting the money under his pillow, which I denied. My very sensitive 8-year-old asked me today if the tooth fairy really exists.
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